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Most guys approach sex in a very mechanical way.
It usually goes like this: get naked, insert penis, have sex in missionary position at precisely 2.7 thrusts a second. Proceed to have an orgasm after 5-10 minutes (at best). No variation in speed, positions or thrusting techniques.
The end result ends up being a robotic sex devoid of any emotion (and it also shortens your lasting time dramatically.)
I’m exaggerating here to make a point, but there is a serious lack of creativity among men when it comes to variety in their sex life which is a real shame.
Women go absolutely wild for men that surprise them and always keep them guessing in the bedroom. Keep her on her toes and spice up your sex life by constantly introducing new things in the bedroom – that’s the key to a happy and fulfilled sex life.
One of the best ways you can accomplish this is with different thrusting techniques. The key here is to mix and match – if you keep doing just one thing, no matter how good she feels in the moment, you will become predictable and she will get bored, which is a death sentence to your sex life.
Here are a few tips to get you started.
Mix It Up A Little
One of the easiest ways to introduce variety into your thrusting techniques is by changing the speed and tempo of your thrusting.
Go fast for 10-20 seconds, then pause and go really slow for the next minute. Have a dozen shallow thrusts before going all in with the deep ones. Vary the speed and depth – that way she can’t predict what you will do next.
Of course, common sense applies here. If she is grabbing you and telling you to go faster or deeper, don’t suddenly slow down – that will just piss her off. Watch her reactions and adapt to that. On the other hand, if you feel you are near an ejaculation, it would be best if you slow down.
It’s usually best to start slowly and then escalate. If you’re just starting with sex, don’t start jackhammering right away. She might not be that wet yet and it will be unpleasant for her.
Instead, start off with slow thrusts for a few minutes and then introduce more speed and variety.
Over the time, as you become more experienced, all of these techniques will become instinctual and you won’t even have to think about what to do and what techniques to use – but for now, try to consciously think and change the depth and speed of your thrusting.
Taoist Thrusting Technique
Here’s a technique to get you started. It’s called the “Taoist Thrusting Technique” and it goes like this:
First you do 9 shallow thrusts and 1 deep thrust.
Then 8 shallow thrusts and 2 deep ones.
Then 7 shallow ones and 3 deep thrusts.
And so on, until you do 10 deep ones.
This technique is great because the variation in thrusts will keep her in suspense – and it will be infinitely more enjoyable than the same-old boring pumping.
It is also great for you, because you will never wonder what to do next – just count the thrusts and follow the plan. Eventually you’ll develop a rhythm and the counting will become unnecessary. Until then, follow the technique as described.
This is also one of the great first thrusting techniques to try out because you’re not doing anything drastically different than before so she won’t freak out, but still it is different enough that she will be able to enjoy it immensely.
Thrusting Techniques To Last Longer In Bed
When it comes to thrusting techniques, if you want to last longer in bed, you’ll need to know several things.
One of the most common causes of premature ejaculation (due to thrusting techniques) is overstimulation of the head of the penis.
In plain English: when you only do fast, shallow thrusts, the head of the penis (which is the most sensitive part) is constantly stimulated. That often leads to overstimulation and premature ejaculation.
One of the ways to combat this is to thrust your penis deeply and to keep the head of the penis inside of her. That way the head is not stimulated and that alone can buy you at least 5-10 more minutes.
If you feel that you are near an ejaculation, just thrust your penis deep inside of her and then start grinding your pelvis against hers. This will lower the stimulation of your penis, but at the same time your pelvis will grind against her clitoris, which will be immensely pleasurable for her.
I mentioned another technique earlier in this article, but it bears repeating – if you feel you’re near an orgasm, slow down. The change in the tempo will provide you with a necessary break you need in order to keep going.
Best Thrusting Positions
Best positions for trying out different thrusting techniques are generally the ones where you have the most control.
It is difficult to try out new things when she is riding you, and you have limited options for thrusting.
On the other hand, positions like missionary and doggy style are great because you have much more control over everything.
As always, try to mix and match and find out what positions work best for you.
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