Why should you learn how to last longer during a blowjob?

Well, consider this (no doubt familiar) situation:

You’re lying down on your bed, eyes closed, with your pants down while your girlfriend is giving you one of the best blowjobs in your life. Her head is rhythmically moving up and down while she’s sucking your dick like there is no tomorrow.

You are enjoying yourself – a little bit too much. It’s not your fault, her mouth is soaking wet, allowing your cock to slide into her mouth, all the way until her lips are on your shaft.  After a few minutes of pleasure the all familiar feeling of ejaculation comes, and you’re done, without even getting to sex.

This situation is frustrating for so many reasons. On the one hand, you can’t control yourself, because the blowjob  feels so damn good. On the other hand, you desperately wish you could last longer so that both she and you can enjoy sex free from your premature ejaculation.

To stop this, maybe you’ve tried some of the more creative tips found online. You know, such genius advice like watching TV during the act (because everyone wants to watch the Price is Right while getting a blowjob) or thinking about someone else (because there is nothing more fun than imagining getting a blowjob from a 350 pound woman).

Why even have sex or get a blowjob if you’re not going to enjoy it to the fullest?

Sex is most enjoyable when you can savor every moment of the act. When you can let your orgasm slowly build as you take your woman on a roller coaster of pleasure, until you finally decide to orgasm all over her.

Now, while I do go over on how to last longer during a blow job in more detail in my Secrets to Lasting Longer System, I’m going to give you some tips here. These are real life tactics I’ve used in my porn career. I know that if they work while getting deepthroated by 10/10 porn girls, they’ll work for you.

How Long Should A Blowjob Last?

First let’s talk about how long should a bj last.

An average blowjob should last between 10-15 minutes. This is short enough so the girl’s neck and jaw don’t get cramped, but still long enough for you to fully enjoy all the pleasures of a blowjob. Of course it all depends on your lasting time, the girl and environment you are in – a blowjob in a elevator is certainly going to be quicker than a blowjob at your place where you can enjoy uninterrupted.

Let’s say you are aiming to last 15 minutes during your next blowjob. Great – you can use the following tips to achieve that goal.

Best Position for a Blowjob

While there are a lot of positions you can receive a blowjob in – lying down, sitting in a chair, 69 – they are not all created equal. The best positions for a blowjob puts you in the control.

What is the best position to receive a blowjob?

Standing up while getting sucked.

That way you can control her tempo and sucking speed.

So if she tries to go to fast, and you get close to ejaculating, you can just slow her down and direct her to other parts, such as balls, etc.

Don’t be afraid to direct her to lick your surrounding areas, either by telling her or gently pushing her head towards the desired licking spot. Balls, inner thighs, whatever rocks your boat. She can also alternate between kissing, licking and sucking – this change in the rhythm will help you to last longer.

It is best if you stand near a bed so she can be comfortable while she’s giving you a bj. She can’t exactly give you a blowjob out of this world if she is trying to ignore the pain in her knees from kneeling on a floor.

Much better that she sits or kneels on the soft, cushy bed so she can dedicate 100% of her attention to pleasing you.

Not only that, but you will have much easier time to convince her to swallow if she is comfortable.

Change Her Technique

If you struggle to last long during a blowjob, it could be coming from the technique she’s using. All girls give blowjobs differently, and if you start paying attention, you’ll see that not all blowjobs are created equal.

There are countless ways to give a blowjob. It’s not as simple as the penis going in and out of her mouth.

For me, I know one thing that drives me crazy, and that’s extended attention to the head. If a girl sucks my cock and spends a lot of time licking the head, I’ll come super fast. My head is so much more sensitive than the rest of my penis, I have to watch out for this.

If my wife is spending too much time licking and rubbing the head, I’ll tell her to stop doing that as much. I won’t tell her “stop that,” because I do like the technique, but I’ll kindly instruct her “not so much, I don’t want to come early.” Women are understanding and will do what you tell them.

You can also control their technique by giving them positive feedback. When she’s using a technique you like, let out moans or tell her “that feels so good.” Do this when she uses techniques that let you last long, and you’ll be able to last much longer during a blowjob.

Personally, I love when my woman holds the shaft of my penis and then takes it as deep as she can. This feels so amazing, but at the same time, it doesn’t make me want to orgasm. So, I tell her to do this and provide positive feedback when she does.

Whatever technique you like, make sure you find out what it is and communicate it to your wife or girlfriend. She wants you to enjoy it just as much as you want to.

Pay Attention To Tension

Secondly, and this is crucial, try paying attention to your entire body while you’re receiving a BJ.

If you focus on your entire body, from head to toes instead of just your dick, you will realize that you are tense all over.

Pay special attention to muscle tension in your glutes and legs – those are muscles closely connected to ejaculation.

This tension is causing you to ejaculate prematurely.

This is true for regular, during the sex ejaculation too – so if you want to learn how to last longer in bed naturally, pay close attention.

Don’t try to check the body tension when you are close to an orgasm – you won’t have the time to stop yourself from ejaculating.

Instead, every few minutes check your body and try to gauge exactly how tense you are. Some tension is normal, but if it is over the top take a few deep breaths to relax.

Here’s a quick breathing tip you can use to lower the tension and thus last longer during a bj – for every 2 normal breaths you take, take a 3 deep ones. That way you can alternate between excitement and relaxation.

Relax Your Pelvic Floor

One of the main reasons why guys come early is because they have a tight pelvic floor. The pelvic floor includes all the muscles in your penis and ass. They control all the movement of blood, pee, semen, and of course, poop.

When these muscles are tight and brittle, they seize up and make you orgasm uncontrollably. If you want to master lasting longer, you must open up the pelvic floor.

There are two ways I want you to improve your pelvic floor.

First is to stretch throughout the day. There aren’t a million stretches I want you to perform, nor is there an intricate routine you have to follow. The stretch I want you to perform is the squat.

Get into the bottom of the squat, and relax.

That’s it. All you have to do is get into the squat position and let your hips stretch.

This might seem simple, but is actually hard to do. Get up, and try it now. Most people can’t get into the bottom of the squat, like this baby, with their heels on the ground.

Practice this stretch until you can sit in it comfortably. Then, see how long you can see in this position. A good time is 60 seconds, but if you can’t last that long, keep practicing. Over time, you’ll get there.

The best thing about this stretch is you can do it anywhere and anytime. At the office, in the bathroom, at the gym, in your living room, wherever. It takes no equipment and can even be performed in pants.

Do this squat exercise and your pelvic floor will thank you.

Now that your pelvic floor is nice and loose from all the squatting you’re doing, it’s time to relax it during the blowjob itself. Many guys tense up during sexual activity, so it’s important to remind our bodies to relax and open up.

To do this, simply open stance. When you stand, your feet are probably a few inches together. Instead, move them apart until they’re feet away from each other.

Practice this stretch while you’re standing getting a blowjob.

You can also do this stretch while lying down and receiving oral. Simply make sure your woman is in between your legs, then stretch them out wide. This doesn’t work if you have a tiny bed, but hopefully you have a nice King Sized bed you can stretch out on.

Your girl won’t even notice what’s going on. She’ll continue sucking as usual, but you’ll be enjoying it much more.

I know for a fact this works because I do it all the time. If my legs are together, I can feel the orgasm creep up on me, but if my legs are apart, I last so much longer.

My Favorite Number

69 position

If you’re still struggling to last longer during a blowjob, it’s time to break out the big guns, and start get into position #69.

The 69 position is when you lie on your back and your woman performs oral sex on you…while you perform oral sex on her. For those who’ve been living under a rock, it looks like this:

This position offers two big advantages to lasting longer.

The first is that you’re distracted. I know we talked about how paying attention to other things during sex is bad, but this is different. Instead of focusing on your 400 pound grandma, or how the Yankees are doing, you’re focusing on a real life vagina!

There’s nothing wrong with being distracted by oral sex. In fact, it’s a good thing, because it means you really care about your partner’s pleasure.

The second reason why 69 is great for oral sex is that…she’s distracted! You’ll be going to town on your woman’s vagina, making her orgasm multiple times, driving her absolutely wild. When your woman is busy receiving oral from you, it’s harder for her to give you a mind blowing blowjob.

Therefore, you’ll enjoy it a little less, but the overall experience will be much more enjoyable.

If All Else Fails

If all else fails, go ahead and orgasm during the blowjob.

(Only do this if you can get hard again and have another round of sex)

Cum in her mouth, or on her face, clean up, and keep going.

The trick here is what you do in between rounds. She might be disappointed that you came so quickly. She knows that means no sex and no orgasms for her, right?

Wrong!

The key to pleasing your woman in this technique is to keep going. Here’s exactly how I accomplish this….

I know how it goes, sometimes you just have to pop off during a blowjob. Maybe you haven’t seen your woman in a while and have a huge load ready to explode. Go ahead, and let it happen.

THEN – once you’re done cleaning up, immediately begin giving her oral sex. Don’t hesitate, don’t ask her what she wants to do, don’t waste a single second. Go straight for her lady parts and start going to town.

Perform oral on her until she orgasms, or at least for 10-15 minutes. After this, you should have an erection, so it’s time for sex.

She’ll be so wet and turned on from the cunningulus, that when you slide in, the sex will be absolutely earth-shattering!

Remember, only use this technique if you can go for two rounds. If you can’t get hard twice, make sure you check out this post.

Becoming an Oral Master

girl dominated

In conclusion, lasting long during sex is crucial for becoming a better lover. Although men see it is the main act, it’s just a warmup to most women. Getting through the blowjob is just a step of foreplay to get you to the final act…sex.

Building your stamina during oral will translate over to real sex. Training your mind and body to last longer is independent of the sexual act or position, so improve at one, and you’ll improve at all of them.

Sexual stamina is a highly desired skill that takes years to master. Apply these tips, and you’ll be on your way to controlling your orgasm for good.

P.S. Let’s be honest.

I know you want to last longer during blowjobs.

You probably have trouble lasting longer during sex, too.

If I could help you put your worries to bed, once and for all, and give you the step by step system to controlling your orgasm, what would you say?

Great news – I’ve just released my long awaited Secrets to Lasting Longer System, complete with my bulletproof training routine to improving stamina. It is jam packed with hundreds of tips designed to make you last longer and rock her world in bed.

If you really want to learn how to last longer not only during a blowjob but also during sex, be sure to check it out.