How To Eat Pussy: The Ultimate Guide to Eating A Woman Out

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It’s time for you to finally learn how to unlock the secrets to becoming a sex god. If you’re thinking it’s about how to eat pussy, read on.

If you think penis length, cumshots, and lasting longer is what keeps women coming back for more, you’re dead wrong.

Women want to be eaten out. So bad.

There’s one big problem, though – most men don’t know how to do it.

The vagina is a complicated beast, and I understand how it can be intimidating. No one teaches us how to eat pussy, you kind of just have to…figure it out.

Despite that, it’s a massively useful skill that all men should learn.

Why Should I Eat Pussy?

Oral sex, cunnilingus, whatever you want to call it, is supremely important for sex for one grave reason:

75% of women do not reach orgasm from sex alone.

Fact.

There have been countless studies done that show this to be true.

Even if you think your woman orgasms every time you have sex, I’m gonna let you in on something: She might be faking it.

Don’t worry about it, Big Mike is here to teach you the ropes of going down on your woman.

Being good at oral sex is an extremely useful skill because all women love it. It’s true. It’s like blowjobs for men. I dare you to find a man who doesn’t like getting a nice, sloppy blowjob.

Women love getting eaten out just like men getting blowjobs.

The difference between men and women is that men are usually in charge, so oral sex is more common. On top of that, men and women have different communication styles.

Men are direct, and we won’t hesitate to say “hey come suck my dick.”

Women, on the other hand, are implicit, and want you to pick up on their non-verbal cues for what they want.

This means that blowjobs are much more common, AND…oral skills are communicated as well. Girls learn how to give blowjobs by listening to audio feedback from men.

Men…how do we learn to go down on our women?

It’s not so easy. Women don’t like telling us what to do. They want us to learn what to do. They want us to already be proficient at pussy pleasuring.

Between men and women, there’s yet another problem…..women’s anatomy is much more complicated than men’s. Most men are pretty straightforward. Dicks are mostly the same.

However vaginas are extremely unique, never the same.

For that reason, eating out has a much steeper learning curve than giving blowjobs.

That’s why I created this guide.

No two women are the same, and even if you can fuck like a pornstar, I bet you’re not an oral pro.

Without wasting any more time, let’s dive into eating pussy.

‘A’ For Attitude

Before we get to the nitty gritty, we need to make sure your mindset is right.

Like I said before, women are implicit, men are explicit, and if your attitude isn’t right, your woman will not enjoy the experience.

One of the main reasons why women can’t orgasm is because…they can’t relax. Unlike men, women need to be completely calm in order to climax. They don’t orgasm on cue like we can.

For that reason, it’s incredibly important to make sure your attitude is on point.

I say this not because it’s “feel good” nonsense, but because I’ve seen men fall on their ass because of their attitude. They remove her panties and then start licking like a hound dog – high tempo, high force….low result.

That’s because their attitude is wrong. They’re so used to crazy animal sex, where the only goal is to pound her as much as you can. Wrong attitude!

The attitude for cunnilingus is that this is a passionate, relaxing, and pleasurable experience for the both of you. You’ll take your time, because you’re in no rush, and you enjoy her presence so much that it doesn’t matter what happens.

Remember: she needs to relax. If you start pressuring her, and asking her questions all the time, she’ll tense up. Focusing on her orgasm will NOT help her orgasm. You want her to zone out, and completely give in to the moment.

She needs to let her guard down before she lets out an orgasm.

Trial & Error

The next concept to understand about oral sex is that it is very much up to trial and error. Like we discussed earlier, vaginas are unique organisms, and no vagina is the same.

Therefore, it’s necessary that you apply special attention to each and every movement you make during oral sex, because every woman is different.

There’s an old cartoon I saw that described this perfectly. Pictured is the cockpit of a commercial airplane with a billion switches, gauges, and indicators all over it. The punchline reads, “how to turn a woman on.”

Although crude, it’s true. There are billions of techniques you can use to turn your woman on, so it’s necessary to try everything until you find what works.

You must become a sexual scientist, methodically experimenting with your procedures, until you strike gold and find the solution.

That begs the question, how do you know if you’re doing it right? The answer is to…

Read Her Like A Book

You can try every technique in the world, but if you aren’t reading the play-call, it’s possible you get left behind…

Like we discussed earlier, women are different than us because they’re implicit. They won’t explicitly tell us “okay baby, here’s exactly how I want you to eat my pussy. You start by doing…and then you do this…”

No. Not gonna happen.

Instead, women will give us signs. They’ll point us in the right direction, but they won’t tell you when you’ve got it.

Some of the signs that women give us include:

-Moaning

-Panting

-Heart rate increase

-Vagina getting tighter or wetter

-Squirming

-Back arching

-Squeezing of your hand/arm

and so on…

When you eat pussy, I want you to imagine you’re breaking into a safe, bank heist style. You know, you put your ear to the lock and spin the dial until the pins drop, confirming you’ve cracked the code.

Same concept here. Try different techniques until she starts responding like crazy, then keep…going.

What if she’s throwing you positive signs but you’re not sure if you’re actually right? In that case you can ask her if she likes it…but don’t do it directly.

Instead of asking “hey baby, is that what you like?” Tell her something positive.

“You love that don’t you.”

If she loves it, she’ll let you know by letting out a hot “yes.” If not, she’ll be quiet.

Which reminds me…there are a few women who don’t respond immediately to the attention you give them down stairs. No matter what you do, she doesn’t respond.

Don’t fret, she may be too tense to show reactions. Maybe it’s the first time you’ve gone down on her, or maybe she’s stressed from work.

Whatever you do, do not worry, and do not stress her out.

It’s much better to ask her what she thought about the cunnilingus after the deed is done, than ruining it in the moment. Wait until the next day to see what she thinks.

OK, now that you’ve got the mindset down, let’s get into the actual meat and potatoes of eating pussy. We’ll start with:

Where’s The Clitoris?

Let’s be real, the most important part of eating a girl out is the clit.

Most women can only orgasm with clitoral stimulation, and unfortunately, sex and even fingering can’t provide the clitoral contact that oral sex does. You can try to use specific sex positions, but oral sex is the #1 way to hit the clit.

That’s why to be good at eating pussy, you need to know the clitoris inside and out.

The clitoris is important because it’s the epicenter of female nerve endings. You know how on your penis, the head is the most sensitive part? And if you rub your head over and over, you’ll probably cum very fast?

Now imagine you put all of those nerve endings into something the size of an M&M.

That’s what the clitoris is.

All vaginas are different, but the clitoris is always in the same general area.

Note that depending on her anatomy, you might have to pull the hood of the clitoris back to stimulate it. You’ll know you’ve done it right because she’ll gasp when you expose the clitoris and hit the glans.

Now that your prerequisites are done, it’s time to start eating pussy, but make sure you…

Start Slow

As men, our default sex mode is wild monkey pounding. This is not how you want to approach oral sex, especially when you’re just getting started.

To begin, make sure you do tons of foreplay. I won’t beat the drum about foreplay too much in this article, because I’ve written about it so extensively, but foreplay is critical for oral sex. She needs to relax.

When you decide to go down on her, introduce some foreplay into the practice. Take your time taking her panties off. Suck on her nipples then kiss her stomach all the way down to her pussy. Lick the vagina once, to tease her, then move to the inside of her thighs (great endogenous zone!).

Once she’s sufficiently seduced, put all of your attention on…

Eating Her Pussy

Now that you’re ready, it’s time to start eating her out. You’ve warmed her up, wined and dined her, and your face is right in her crotch.

Start by putting your lips and placing them around her pussy, in the shape of an “O” (an O, which you’ll soon be giving her).

Apply a little bit of back pressure by sucking with your mouth.

Then, start using your tongue. This is where it gets tricky, and it’s important to have the right attitude.

Your tongue is an extremely dynamic muscle, which can do millions of actions, so seriously, try everything.

Lick up and down in broad strokes.

Do quick rubs of your tongue on her clit.

Pretend your tongue is a penis and move it in and out of her vagina.

The goal is to hit every crevice of her pussy, to deliver a huge variety of sensation to her. She’ll become overwhelmed, and soon orgasm.

Listen to her responses, and when you find something that makes her toes curl, keep going.

Lastly, change the tempo and provide all of your focus to the clitoris. Treat your tongue like a finger and rub her clit like it’s the trackpad on your computer. Rub it with complete focus until she orgasms.

Of all the girls I’ve eaten out, most of them orgasm from this act alone. Everything else is the build-up to this main act.

With enough practice, you’ll find the spots that she enjoys, and soon she’ll be begging to sit on your face regularly.

Now, I know some of you have questions.

“What If She Takes Too Long?”

There’s two scenarios in this case:

  1. She can’t orgasm from oral.

You’ll know this is true if you REALLY put in the time, but she doesn’t cum.

Be patient, do the work, and when you’re done, talk to her about the act. She might flat out tell you that she’s never orgasmed from oral sex. It is possible, but there’s another scenario as well.

  1. She isn’t expressive at all.

Believe it or not, there are some girls who will absolutely MELT over you eating their pussy…but they won’t show it. They’ll be lying there like a dead fish, seemingly bored with what you’re doing, but in their head…they’re actually on cloud nine.

In this case, keep going, and wait till she orgasms.

I used to date a girl who was just like this. She wouldn’t make a peep until she orgasmed. It would be ten minutes of dead silence, my tongue getting a serious workout…until she let out an ear-shattering “OH MY GOD, YES!” and we reached the Promised Land.

Either way, be patient, and you’ll succeed.

“What Do I Do With My Hands?”

Excellent question.

My advice is to focus on your tongue, and not worry about what your hand is doing.

At first.

Then, once you really know how to eat pussy, you start using your hand. Multi-tasking is hard, and I don’t want you juggling multiple goals at once.

If you want to use your hands, here’s a few tips.

First of all, make sure you cut your damn nails.

Second, remember that most of the pleasure will come from your tongue. Fingering is like an add-on that will increase intensity, but only around 10%. The majority of the results come from oral.

This means you should use your finger quietly. Slip it into her pussy while you’re eating her clit, and get a nice feel. You’ll now be hitting even more nerves, which could push her over the top.

And yes, you can try fingering her asshole, if you’re both into that.

I won’t drone on about fingering here, but if you want to learn more, I wrote a great article about how to finger a girl.

“How Do I Know She Orgasmed?”

Like most questions, this once is nuanced due to anatomical variety.

However, when you make her orgasm…you’ll know.

Her pussy will pulse. She’ll arch her back into a strong “C” shape. She may even start gushing pussy juice all over your face.

The #1 way to tell is if she pushes you away.

You know when you orgasm, and she keeps sucking, your penis is EXTREMELY sensitive? So much that it can be painful?

Same thing here. Remember, her clit is your head, and if she pushes you away…that means you’ve done a good job.

Halftime Show

Last tip I want to leave you guys with is a simple tactic I like to employ.

It’s so simple, nobody talks about it, but it’s responsible for a lot of my wife’s orgasms.

Here it is.

Eat her pussy…in between rounds of sex.

Have sex, cum, then IMMEDIATELY get to eating her pussy. She’ll still be emotionally high from the sex, and will want to keep going, so just put your head in her legs and go to town.

Then, once she’s orgasmed, your little man will be ready to go for round two.

This is GREAT for guys who can’t last long, and need two rounds to really pound her brains out.

When you’re done eating her out, her pussy will be so wet, that the sex will be mind-blowing.

This only works if your refractory period is short, so if yours is like an hour long, make sure you read this.

“How Else Can I Make Her Orgasm?”

Finally, you might be asking what you can do to make her orgasm in other ways.

Maybe your woman can’t orgasm from oral, or maybe you want to take your sex life to the next level and give her multiple orgasms.

In that case, I highly recommend you read Revolutionary Sex.

It’s the greatest resource on sex out there, written by an old friend of mine, Alex Allman. He’s a true professional, who’s been teaching men about sex since the early ’90’s. When I got married and needed to re-train myself to make love, he’s the first guy I called.

Learn more here.