Frustrating, isn’t it?
Just as the things were heating up… you’re finished – again.
No matter what you try, no matter what you do, it always ends up the same way – with you being done in a few minutes and the look of disappointment in her eyes.
It’s a sad reality that the paragraph above describes over 70% of men around the world if scientific studies are to be believed. Not only that, but premature ejaculation is one of the leading causes of fighting, cheating, break-ups, and divorce. So the next time your girlfriend or wife tells you that your lasting time of three minutes is “No big deal” be sure to take that with a grain of salt.
That may sound harsh, but think about it – women human beings like us guys, and they have desires and sexual cravings that can’t be satisfied in three minutes sex sprint. Can you really blame them if they look for pleasure elsewhere, since you can’t be the one to satisfy her?
Most guys try to solve their “quickness problem” at some point in their life, but that almost always proves to be more challenging than previously thought. One reason for that is that usually there are multiple causes for premature ejaculation – both mental and physical. But another major reason is that common advice concerning this problem is (more often than not) complete bullshit.
You know the type of advice I mean. “Think about baseball stats!” or “Just use the start-stop method!” – This kind of bullshit advice is regularly given by friends, men’s magazine writers and it’s found online.
And guess what? It doesn’t work! If it did work premature ejaculation wouldn’t be #1 problem men face in their relationships today.
But, enough about things that don’t work. Here are the top 7 tips to help you last longer in bed:
1. It All Begins In Your Head – Change Your Thoughts, Last Longer
For most guys, the orgasm happens in their heads first, and then the physical ejaculation happens.
Men are so worried about their past (less than stellar) performance, that they can’t stop thinking about it and that causes them to (again) prematurely ejaculate, creating this vicious self-repeating cycle.
This is how it usually plays out:
You are anxious… you think you’re going to cum too quickly =>
Your anxiety follows you into the bedroom =>
Because you’re anxious you do cum too quickly =>
Afterward, this only reinforces your belief that you will also orgasm quickly in the future.
So what is the solution to this? It’s simple really – stop thinking. Be completely in the moment, and be mindful of your thoughts.
So, when you catch yourself thinking about your past performance, just take a deep breath and release that thought from your head.
2. Masturbate the Right Way (There Is More than One)
Masturbation is something most men started doing in puberty. You would think that after all that time we would have learned to do it properly. Unfortunately, that isn’t the case.
Most men masturbate the same way they did when they were teens living with their parents – quickly, with their only goal being a quick orgasm (before mom and dad come into the room). That only enforces bad habits that they then carry to the bedroom.
So what is the right way to masturbate? It’s the complete opposite of the way most people do it – slow, with at least 30 minutes dedicated to it.
3. Smart Way to Do Kegels
Most people have heard about Kegels. In fact, that is one of the rare pieces of mainstream advice that actually works.
The reason most guys don’t have a large success with them is that they try doing them once or twice, and then give up when they don’t work immediately.
That’s just ridiculous. You wouldn’t go into the gym expecting to lift 500 lbs. on your first day now, wouldn’t you? But you expect to do Kegels once or twice and then have complete control over your PC muscles?
What you need is a complete plan that takes all the guesswork out of the equation. Something you can follow to the letter and see the results – no ifs, ands or buts. Luckily for you, I provide 1 month Kegels program based on my years long experience in the porn industry.
4. Foreplay is Important Essential
This is actually one of the easiest ways to prolong your lasting time while simultaneously increasing the enjoyment your girl is getting from sex.
Look at the picture above. The “Men” part should come as no surprise, but the “women” part should give you pause. Not only do women take a longer time to reach an orgasm, but they also take a longer time to get aroused.
With that in mind, the logical thing to do is to prolong the length of the arousal phase or foreplay.
The guys are notorious for rushing foreplay, so even if you delay sex by 10 minutes, you are immediately different from all other guys she’s ever been with. Not to mention she will be much more aroused when you finally have sex.
5. Choose Your Sex Positions Wisely
When it comes to sex positions, there are the good, the bad, and the ugly. Let’s start with the ugly.
Ugly: Missionary position. Arguably the worst position for men, because not only is it causing the most friction, but because you’re on top, it is causing your muscles to be tense the entire time. Not good at all. Completely avoid this position in the beginning.
Bad: Doggy style. Doggy style is slightly better than missionary, but it’s is still too much for most guys. In general, doggy is something you should go for LATER on, if you start with doggy + she has an amazing ass, you’re in trouble.
Good: Girl on top. Without question, this is the best position for long-lasting time. Not only are you on your back and completely relaxed; you can also use your hands to control the movement of her body.
So if she starts moving too quickly and you feel like you’re about to orgasm, just hold her hips and control her movement.
6. Eat Pomegranate – Best Erection Boosting Food There Is
There are some foods that you eat that make you lethargic, slow you down, and make you feel bloated.
And then there are foods that turn your penis into a steel anaconda.
Pomegranate is the second kind.
This fruit is called “natural Viagra” by scientists because it raises Nitric Oxide Synthase activity – the same mechanism used by erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation medication.
You know what they say – a pomegranate a day keeps premature ejaculation away.
Be sure to check out other foods that can make you a superstar in bed.
7. Best Yoga Pose to Prolong Lasting Time
This may sound strange, but you wouldn’t believe how many porn stars do yoga. Ever wonder how we can do some of those crazy shots you see in the movies? Yup, all thanks to yoga.
I’m not going to give you an hour long program. You can get the “last longer in bed” benefits of yoga just by practicing one pose a day for 10 minutes a day.
It’s called cow faced pose and you can see it here:
These are the 7 most important things you can do to last longer in bed. But this is just the tip of the iceberg.
If you really want to last longer and take your sex life to another level, be sure to check out this guide.