Doesn’t it suck when you have a wife (or a girlfriend) who is not 100% excited to have sex with you? I mean, she does like it…but it always seems that you are the one initiating the desire.
If you weren’t starting things would she ever? Or would she just be uninterested?
These questions (and many more) plague men like you around the globe every day. Luckily, you don’t need to despair.
There is a simple solution to your problems, and all it requires are a few changes in your behavior.
If you want to learn how to make her want sex all the time, read on.
Change #1: Last Longer In Bed
This is the first thing you must do. First of all, how is she going to get excited when thinking about having sex with you if you’re a 2-minute man?
Here’s the thing: Men and women need a different amount of time to reach an orgasm. Guys are usually good to go a few minutes after they start having sex (or even a few minutes BEFORE they start having sex if they are easily excited).
With women it’s different. On average they need at least 15 minutes to get an orgasm – and possibly even more.
So, if you aren’t lasting at least 15 minutes in bed, every single time, you need to work on your stamina – fast.
If you don’t know where to start, check out my Secrets to Lasting Longer system. It’s jam-packed with a bunch of useful tips and techniques designed to make you last as long as possible in bed.
Change #2: Give Her An Orgasm
Now that we have you lasting as long as you want to in bed, it’s time to get to the good stuff.
Now, I’m not saying that it’s impossible to have great sex without having an orgasm…but come on. How would you feel if you never came at the end?
To further complicate things, there is no easy sign to show guys when a girl is having an orgasm. Sure, you can ask, but it can also lead to an unpleasant answer.
Here are the things you can do to make it happen for her:
First, extend the foreplay. Women need more “warm-up” time so give it to them. You can even make a game out of it – don’t make a move to escalate things. Just keep turning her on and wait for them to beg you to have sex with her. She’ll be dripping wet in no time.
(Check out my other article, 11 Unique Foreplay Ideas to Drive Her Wild)
Second, make sure you are having sex in the right position. Some girls can’t have an orgasm if they are having sex in the missionary position (strange, but true). Some can ONLY cum if they are on the top. Find out what her best “orgasm position” is and have sex more often that way.
Lastly, stimulate her clit during sex. The easiest way I have found to do this is while in the doggy style position. Use one arm to hold onto her hips for balance and use the other to finger her while you are having sex. This “double pleasure” will have her rolling her eyes and curling her toes (and shaking from intense orgasms, of course).
Change #3: Talk Dirty
The third thing you must do is master the art of dirty talking (don’t worry, it’s easier than you think).
Just like other things on this list, you want to start off slowly and then escalate. You don’t want to start calling her a bitch or a whore.
Now, this may shock you, but I’m not going to give you any lines or anything like that.
Well, even if I gave you the best lines they are not your own – they would sound fake when you spoke them in the bedroom. And believe me, women can spot fakeness from a mile away.
Instead, I’m going to give you a couple of pointers you can apply, regardless of the lines you decide to use.
Your voice is very important. A high pitched voice can make the best lines sound ridiculous, while the low, calm voice can make even the basic stuff sound amazing.
Figure out her limits. Every girl has her limits, and it’s different for each one. But try to find some baseline from which you can operate. When starting out, it’s better to err on the side of caution.
Finally, get her involved. Women love to talk dirty. After you’ve been practicing dirty talking for a while, try asking her to join you.
The easiest way to do that is to start with a couple of yes-no questions, and then proceed to ask open-ended questions.
Ask her what specifically she likes/wants. As a bonus, you can use this as a research method to find out what she likes the most, and then do those things more often. A win-win!
Change #4: Be Dominant
Contrary to what feminists would like you to believe, women don’t want to have sex with pussyfied beta males who need to ask permission before they do anything in bed.
Even though most women will never admit it, they long to be dominated in bed.
50 Shades of Grey has sold hundreds of millions of copies – and it isn’t because the author is a literary genius.
No. It’s because it speaks to them in a primal way that awakens their hidden desires – desires they don’t dare admit to anyone.
So, how can you use this knowledge (without reading the 50 Shades of Grey)?
Well, don’t go off running to buy whips and chains just yet. If you start being overly dominant out of the blue, you will spook her and you will have accomplished nothing.
Instead, start off gradually. Try being a little rougher the next time you are having sex. Slap her ass. Bite her. Hold her down. Test and see where her boundaries are.
When you are certain she is comfortable with that, start escalating. (slowly)
P.S. My Secrets To Lasting Longer guide will not only teach you how to last longer in bed; it will also show you how to get her addicted to sex with you. It’s filled with the best tips about lasting longer and improving your sex life from my decades-long porn career. Forget whips, handcuffs, and blindfolds – if you only ever invest in one thing for your sex life, this should be it.