Who wouldn’t want to last longer in bed? No, really, raise your hand and let us know if you’re fully satisfied with your performance. If so, you’re an absolute unicorn. Most guys out there would want to be capable of having sex for at least 30 minutes at a time. Avid porn enthusiasts would probably prefer even more stamina.
An interesting Norwegian study suggests that 27 percent of the questioned men self-report as having premature ejaculation. The medical problem, however, affects fewer guys than that. The findings only come to show you just how unrealistic expectations of sexual performance are.
Medical research suggests that penetrative sex lasting anywhere between a few and 15 minutes is normal. If you fall within this range, you have nothing to worry about. Less than a minute, however, is a definite sign of premature ejaculation (especially if it occurs often).
The good news is that you can do a number of things to reduce the risk of having a premature ejaculation (PE) episode right when you need your performance to be stellar. Here are a few of the best exercises and techniques that will build your stamina and give you better control over both your erection and your orgasm.
First Things First: Understand What Women Want
Before moving on to train your sex endurance muscle, it may be a good idea to dig a bit deeper into what women actually want.
Most guys believe that penetrative sex lasting a long time is the key to the elusive female orgasm. This isn’t necessarily the case.
An interesting study has found out that the desirable duration of sex is anywhere between seven and 13 minutes. In fact, most women questioned in surveys report that sex lasting more than that is too long. Such sex could get uncomfortable or even painful.
Thus, being able to go on and on isn’t necessarily a good thing.
Rather, you should focus on your partner’s pleasure, and more often than not, that involves foreplay and clit stimulation. If you target the right spot in the right way, you can give her a powerful orgasm even if sex lasts only a few minutes. So, talk to her and get real about what women want. When you do, you’ll find out that hours and hours of penetration is definitely not something that ladies look forward to.
Control Your Performance Anxiety
Performance anxiety and being way too excited are going to get you orgasming pretty fast.
Thus, one of the best ways to reduce the risk of premature ejaculation is to relax and control your arousal.
You can do so by having a quick masturbation session before meeting with someone special. Choosing the best male masturbator will give you a fun experience and a chance to let out the steam before actual sex. A good masturbator can also be utilized in some stamina-building techniques like edging.
Speaking of which:
Learn How to Do Edging
Edging is one of the best natural techniques against PE.
It’s very easy to do on your own. Once you’ve gotten the hang of it, you can apply edging to your sexual experiences with partners.
Here’s what would need to happen – try masturbating and bringing yourself almost to the edge of orgasm (hence the name of the technique). Before you’ve gone over the tipping point, stop stimulating yourself and take a deep breath. Once you’ve managed to calm down, start masturbating again.
Repeat the routine a couple of times before eventually allowing yourself to orgasm. Through edging, you’ll learn to control your excitement and you’ll also get to experience more powerful orgasms in the end.
During sex, you can do edging by switching between positions that allow for deep and shallow penetration. If you get way too excited, you can discontinue penetrative sex and do a bit of petting, oral sex or foreplay. Once you’ve managed to calm down a bit, you can resume the penetrative sex itself.
Try Some Supplements
While the market features many products meant to reduce the risk of premature ejaculation, the vast majority don’t work.
A few nutrients and minerals, however, could help guys get good results.
Research, for example, suggests that zinc could be one of the minerals capable of reducing the occurrence of PE.
Zinc helps control the male libido and also plays a role in testosterone production. Some studies link zinc deficiency to various kinds of sexual dysfunction, including premature ejaculation. Taking a zinc supplement and eating a balanced diet can both contribute to hormonal regulation and a reduced risk of experiencing performance issues.
The Squeeze Technique
Here’s another very simple and very effective technique that doesn’t cost anything to practice.
The squeeze method has been around for a long time and various guys from across the globe achieved success with it.
When you feel like you’re about to come, pull out and squeeze the head of your penis. Your partner could also do that if you want them to be involved.
The squeeze is going to reduce the urge to ejaculate in a couple of minutes. When this happens, you can resume with your favorite sexual activity.
Use a Condom!
This is obviously a given when it comes to safety. A condom is one of the most reliable forms of contraception that can also reduce the risk of STD transmission.
A condom can also be used to reduce penile sensitivity a bit and make premature ejaculation less likely.
The market also features desensitizing condoms that have some anesthetic on the inside. Such products should be used with caution and only if you find it impossible to control yourself through other techniques. Desensitizing condoms and creams do work but they can also make sex a lot less pleasurable.
Premature ejaculation can really impact your confidence and completely kill the joy of success. The good news is that you don’t have to suffer through such a problem. Do talk to a doctor before attempting anything else. Sometimes, PE is caused by other medical issues. If this isn’t the case, lifestyle changes and sexual techniques can definitely deliver good and noticeable results.