Masturbating Before Sex: Yay Or Nay?

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Premature ejaculation sucks.

There’s no arguing about that.

Failing to satisfy your woman is the worst thing a man can experience. You start going at it with your woman, you enjoy some passionate foreplay together, start having sex, and BAM…within a few short minutes, you orgasm. The sex is over, she hasn’t orgasmed, and you’re both left feeling disappointed.

If you deal with lasting long in bed, I bet you’ll do everything you can to fix it.

Which brings us to today’s topic: Is masturbating before sex a good idea? will it make you last longer?

This has been one of the most widely discussed topics in the history of sex. Some men praise it as the “secret sauce” to lasting longer, whereas for others it makes their dick soft.

Back in the days of my successful porn-star career, my co-workers loved to talk about whether or not this worked. See, our paychecks were directly impacted by how well we performed in bed, so lasting longer was literally what our livelihood depended on. We were always on the hunt for the newest technique to lasting longer.

There were some men who always masturbated before filming, and there were some who never masturbated before a scene.

Personally, I experimented with masturbation before scenes and found that it works…with a catch, of course. Masturbating made my loads smaller, and since porn needs huge cumshots, I had to refrain from jerking off before work.  

Despite that, jerking off before sex can be a useful tool to keep in your toolbox. If you’re dealing with premature ejaculation, this quick fix may be the answer to your prayers.

So, does masturbation make you last longer? The answer is, it depends. There’s a few factors that determine its effectiveness: stamina, erection quality, sex frequency, and age.

Today we’ll discuss whether you should masturbate before sex, primarily by analyzing these four factors.

The first question is:

How Much Longer Will You Last by Jerking Off Before Sex?

Overall, if you jerk off before sex then yes, in most cases you will last longer in bed.

That’s because it takes much longer to achieve a second orgasm than it does the first. However, that extended stamina comes at a price.

After you have an orgasm, you go into the so-called “refractory period.” You know, this is when your erection loses its strength and you become temporarily insensitive to stimulation. You go flaccid and it takes a short while to get your erection back.

That’s the first problem with masturbating before sex. If your refractory period is too long, you’ll have to wait a good bit of time after masturbating to have sex. Thankfully, there are ways to shorten your refractory period to make this easier.

Now, let’s pretend your refractory period is under control…so, just how much longer can you last after masturbating?

Well, it depends on multiple factors, but usually you can expect to last between 3-5 times longer than usual.

So if you normally last about 5 minutes in bed, you can expect to last anywhere from 15 to 25 minutes the second time.

Sounds amazing, right?

Not so fast hotshot.

It’s not all roses and rainbows.

Do You Have Erection Problems?

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How hard are your erections?

Unless you answered “hard as a rock” you might want to rethink masturbating before having sex.

That’s because if you have weak erections, you might not be able to get it up when it comes time to have sex. After you masturbate the first time, you’ll need to go soft, and then get another erection in order to have sex.

You might be one of the men that struggles to get one erection. Now, if you masturbate before sex, you’ll have to get an erection twice in order to have sex. This is not an easy task for men dealing with erectile dysfunction.

And while premature ejaculation sucks, erectile dysfunction is much, much worse. Your partner can deal with premature ejaculation, but there isn’t much to do if you can’t get hard in the first place.

Now, don’t worry. If your erections are not as hard as you’d like them to be, there is a solution.

I’ll mention it at the end of this article.

How Often Do You Have Sex?

By now you know that stamina is a complicated subject, controlled by a laundry list of factors. One of the lesser-known reasons for premature ejaculation is not having a lot of sex.

When you have sex often, your body gets conditioned to sex and you end up lasting longer. Sex is just like anything, especially exercise, where if you do it more, you get better at it.

On the other hand, if you aren’t having sex, your body will NOT be prepared for extended sex sessions. Your penis will be sensitive, your pelvic floor muscles may be weak, and most important…you’ll be horny as hell!

Lack of sex will make any man turn into an animal. That’s why we masturbate more than women, and our sex drives are generally stronger. We need to have sex, it’s just in our biology.

This means that when you go without having sex for a long period of time, your body goes into “scarcity” mode. Then, when you finally do have sex, you’re so excited to finally be inside your woman, that you blow your load super fast.

That’s why edging is so effective for fixing premature ejaculation. When you aren’t having sex frequently, edging simulates long sex marathons, without actually having sex. This way, when it’s time for the main event, your penis is in championship shape, ready to last thirty minutes (or more).

How Old Are You?

Age is another important factor you need to take in consideration.

Generally speaking, the older you are the more time you’re going to need to “recover” from blowing your load. It’s nothing to worry about, every man goes through the same thing as we age.

The reason for this is blood flow. When you’re young and healthy, your body is pumping blood through your body much more than when you’re older. That’s why heart disease and other coronary issues happen only in older gentlemen, because blood flow is low.

Blood flow is crucial for having an erection, and even more important if you want to masturbate before sex. When you’re young, it’s easy to masturbate one minute and be having sex the next. When you’re older, it’s not so easy.

Good news – blood flow can be improved. I know as I’ve gotten older, my circulation has taken a hit, so I figured out a few ways to increase blood flow to the penis.

So if you’re over 30 I’d suggest you masturbate 1-2 hours before sex. You do not want to masturbate right before sex, and not be able to get an erection. That would be even worse than cumming early.

If you’re a young healthy guy in his twenties, you should be able to get away with masturbating just 30 minutes before sex. Your mileage may vary, of course, so I recommend that you experiment with your body and figure out the optimal waiting period.

Even if you can get an erection 30 minutes after masturbating, it might not be 100% hard, or maybe sex doesn’t feel as good. In that case, wait a little bit longer.

Everyone’s body is different, so be patient, and figure out what works best for you.

All Things In Moderation

There’s an important thing to remember about masturbation before sex:

Don’t overdo it.

If masturbating before sex improves your performance, it’s easy to make it a habit. You love the satisfaction of lasting 30 minutes or more, so you start doing it more and more. Bad news – this can actually hurt your sex life and your confidence.

The worst thing that can happen is that you start to jerk off every single time before you’re about to have sex.

That way, not only does your physical problem remain, you’ll also develop performance anxiety. That’s because you’ll feel like you need to masturbate before you have sex. It’s kind of like if you can’t get an erection without Viagra, you end up depending on the pill in order to have sex.

Wouldn’t it be better to be able to have epic pornstar stamina every time you have sex, without having to masturbate?

One thing I noticed when I was in porn was the guys who lost confidence from having to masturbate.

Listen, everything I’ve mentioned above is highly important. But I’ll be honest with you:

If you’re researching whether you should masturbate before sex or not, it means that you have a serious problem with premature ejaculation. And you need to do something about it.

It’s not an easy thing to admit to yourself, but it’s the truth.

It’s not an easy thing to admit to yourself, but it’s the truth.

Now, you can masturbate before sex, use different sex positions, and prolong foreplay…

But that’s just covering a bullet wound with a Band-Aid.

What you need to do instead is cure the problem itself – and do it safely and naturally, without any life-threatening pills or torture-looking devices.

That’s why I’ve created The Lasting Longer Guide – the ultimate guide for men who want to last 30+ minutes in bed.

I took my fifteen-year long career in the porn industry and condensed it into a no-nonsense manual for men who want more out of their sex lives.